|Father & Son (Photo credit: jeroenadema)|
Love either finds equality or makes it. ~ John Dryden ~
I am not my wife's boss and she is not mine. There are times when one of us will take charge of a situation, but it's a matter of what we decide or whatever seems most appropriate at that situation. Mutual love and respect allows us to recognize what seems appropriate in the proper circumstances, but the communication channels must remain open for us to be successful in our relationship.
Whether it be family or friends, if we love, we are equal.
As in any human relationship, knowledge or position may give a party the responsibility of taking charge. This does not mean that party is the dictator over the other, but the party in charge provides guidance, direction, and leadership. There should be no loss of love in these instances, but an increase in respect and deference to the one who holds the power at that time.
We see in life that power can mutable and transferable. As children we may be subjective to our parents, but as time goes by we may become like equals to them. Then if they begin to falter we may become like the parents. If the love is there, the equality evolves into an acceptance of doing the right things at the right times.
When I was a child my father wielded discipline when needed, but showed a fun side when that was the appropriate side to display. I loved my dad, but I could be scared of him as well. As I grew older we sometimes clashed as sons and fathers will sometimes do. Later after I had children of my own I began to understand my father much better and we became like equals. The day that I was able to thank him for his influence on my life and let him know that I loved him was an experience of liberation.
If love is equality, then the realization of equality through love is freedom. My past is an exhilarating rush of good memories of parents who set me free when I was ready and accepted me as an equal.
Have you experienced the feeling of child/parent equality? Do you feel that you have an equality in your marriage? How does love and equality relate to you?