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"The human heart, at whatever age, opens to the heart that opens in return." - Maria Edgeworth
Love should be as much about what not to say when words need not be spoken as when to say what needs to be said. A fair and patient interchange of thoughts, ideas, and opinions should be welcome. If words are not intended for hurt or eroding a relationship, the channels for their exchange should be left open.
There are difficulties ahead for the relationship that does not allow for openness. Honesty that mutually informs and helps to strengthen a relationship is the key to confidence in the love relationship. We should speak with respect and caring. Harsh words can cut deeper and have more lasting negative effects than anything else between two people. Measure the words, but never stifle them completely.
No one that I know is a mind reader. I certainly am not. If my wife wants something badly enough she needs to let me know what it is precisely. Hints may work, but they are not always the most effective way to communicate. Silent treatments don't help to build a relationship, but angry words don't contribute much that is good either. Straight talk and openness is the best way. If the other party cannot handle that then the fault is upon them and not you if you've tried to keep channels of communication open.
The old saying "Love means never having to say you're sorry" may work if you are adequately showing your contrition, but for me there is not much that is better than a truly sincere heartfelt apology. If we are open with each other and to each other's needs, then we may never have to get to the point where apologies might be considered necessary. Maybe that's where the adage comes into play. With openness in love, we are unlikely to come to the point where apologies are even an issue.
Openness is a gateway that allows love to flow freely in and out.
What kinds of things are best left unsaid in a love relationship? How are you able to facilitate more openness in your relationships with those you love?