Love looks through a telescope; envy through a microscope. ~ Josh Billings ~
Judging others can sometimes be difficult for us not to do. When we first begin to love someone, judgment is often set aside because we are so captivated by a new lover or friend. Then as time goes by and the newness wears off, we sometimes start noticing things we missed in the earliest stages of a relationship. We begin to see through the judge's eyes.
Over time we pick up on quirks and habits that may begin to bother or even annoy us. Accept them. That's who they are. If you love, there are some things you should let go. If something was once endearing, why should it become irksome? If we loved a person for who they were when we met them, then we should love who they are now.
People can change and change can be for the good or for the bad. Take care when we judge. Is the judgement warranted? Is that person helping themselves in what they do? Are they hurting us or others? Sometimes judgement is necessary. Be sure that our judgement is meant to help others and not just make ourselves seem better.
What kinds of judgement are the worst in a relationship? When is judgement necessary? Have you ever felt that you were under the wrath of the judgement by a person you loved?
