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| English: A quiet time for the River Carron. A peaceful setting for some lazy reflection after an enjoyable walk to Meikle Bin. The end of a lovely day out. (Photo credit: Wikipedia) |
What kind of companion are you? What kind of person do you enjoy being alone with?
I've had a few friends with whom I could spend time with and be comfortable in not speaking for long periods. I don't mean because we were angry or anything like that, but that we just didn't feel like saying anything. Often this might have been the case while hiking or on camping trips. Whatever the case, there is something comforting about sharing time with another person without having to share any words.
Marriage is probably like that for most of us. If you're like me, you'd probably go nuts if your partner continually chattered or expected you to be saying something all the time. Quiet times are sometimes necessary. Quiet times together can be very comforting.
To me, time spent silently together indicates a sense of confidence in the relationship and trust in one another. Sometimes the deepest emotions are stated without words. Perhaps it is a good thing to try communication exercises that don't involve speaking. At other times it's best to let a partner be absorbed in their silent activities so they can get done whatever it is they need to do.
Maybe all couples don't feel this way. I don't know. My wife and I both tend to be quiet people much of the time. She has things to do and so do I. If we have given each other our individual spaces with quiet times under the same roof, then our together conversation times can be much more fulfilling.
Communication is important in any love relationship, but the quiet times reflect a different side of that love.
Do you like to spend quiet times with another person you think a great deal of? Does being quiet in the presence of another person make you uncomfortable? How do you spend you quiet times?
