A to Z Theme 2016

For my 2016 A to Z theme I used a meme that I ran across on the blog of Bridget Straub who first saw it on the blog of Paula Acton. This meme is a natural for me to use on my memoir blog. It's an A to Z concept and it's about me. No research and nothing complicated. I'm given twenty six questions or topics to discuss that are about me.

In April I kept my posts short and uncomplicated. In the midst of it all you might learn a few things about me that you didn't previously know.
Showing posts with label Tossing It Out. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Tossing It Out. Show all posts

Saturday, October 22, 2016

Halloween Memories (from Tossing It Out)


The following post originally appeared at Tossing It Out on October 29th, 2009...


Halloween Memories

Jack-o-lantern
Jack-o-lantern (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
        Halloween undoubtedly evokes many different memories for different people. Some of you may have special memories from your own childhood or perhaps memories from when your own children celebrated Halloween. Maybe there is a special person or place that you will think of when you think of Halloween. Today I'm going to share some of my memories.

        The most recent memories certainly have to do with my previous job managing a warehouse for a Halloween wholesale distributor that this year closed the regional operation where I was located. Having been there for nearly 20 years, it felt like home to me. When my daughters were young, I would pick them up from school and sometimes bring them to the warehouse. Once they had finished their homework I would let them pull orders. It was like a game to them and they enjoyed it. But it was also training. When they were in high school they all were on the payroll at one time or another and were my most valuable employees. I enjoyed working with my daughters.

        Later, after my daughters moved away, the company started downsizing partly due to heightened efficiency but also due to diminished business at our location. But we were still busy at Halloween. Often leaving the house well before sunrise, I would stop by a 24 hour donut shop for some pastries and a large coffee and go to my office to prepare things for when the employees would arrive. I particularly liked that peaceful time of solitude, having my coffee and donuts and organizing the orders. When I finished the prep work, then I would usually go back into the frigid warehouse and pull several orders to get the packers started when they arrived. Alone in a big empty warehouse for me is a special time for thought and introspection.

        In the last few days before Halloween, work would slow down for the distributers like us. This is when the retail stores kick into high gear. We would have special orders to be shipped by air-- 3 day, 2 day, and then next day. We might have a few local last minute pick ups. But mostly it was time to wind down, reorganize the warehouse, and come to work later and go home at the regular time. When Halloween came it was like a holiday for us. I'd treat my employees to a pizza party and Halloween goodies and let everyone leave early. Then I would leave early so I could get ready for the trick-or-treaters.

      One memorable Halloween was in 1979. My wife, two year old son and I were touring with a stage production at the time. On tour with us was one of my good friends, his wife and their daughter who was about to turn three. We were not performing that night -- Halloween was typically not a good night for the show--and travelling a goodly distance that day from someplace in Texas to Lafayette, LA. As it started to get dark we decided to pull into the next town we came to along I-10 and take the kids trick-or-treating. The town was a quaint place called Jennings, LA. We stopped in the parking lot of a small shopping center and dressed the kids in makeshift costumes. We then drove to a fine neighborhood of older stately homes. We took our children door to door to give them their first experience with trick-or-treat. I don't think they really understood what was going on, but it didn't take long for them to get caught up in the spirit of the event. After we had completed our round of the street where we had stopped, we got back into the van and continued on to Lafayette to our motel. I'm sure that neither of our kids remember that night, but for me it was kind of special to drop into a place where I had never been before and feel like we were part of the community just as though we were back home.

       And home is what I really think of when I think of Halloween now. Aside from the years when I was on the road at Halloween, most Halloween nights I have been at home. In the parts of the U.S. where the air has started turning cooler and night comes sooner, Halloween has a special feel that means another year is drawing closer to an end. The autumn palette of changing leaves, big orange pumpkins ready for carving, and the smell of wood fires and leaves burning evokes a certain sadness that will soon be replaced by the warmth and excitement of Thanksgiving and Christmas. Halloween, like all of the holidays, has lost much of the old fashioned simplicity and has become industrial, has become big business. It may be good for the economic climate so far as business goes, but not so much for the economy of the heart and soul. Sometimes it seems as we become more wealthy in what we own, we become poorer in who we are.

       Make the best of what you have. And have a good time.


       What are you going to do this Halloween? What are you going to be?




Saturday, September 19, 2015

Cherish the Love (Soundtrack of my Life)



        Several years ago a very dear friend of mine lost his wife.  She passed away during the night as they were sleeping.  They had been married for about 25 years.  It was a while after the event that I got a chance to talk with him.  He had overcome his grief for the most part--at least from the outside--but still I imagine that his wife's passing weighed heavily on his mind.

         Losing a spouse no matter what the circumstance must be a very difficult experience.  To go to bed one night and wake up during the night to discover your spouse has died would be especially traumatic to me.  My wife and I don't dwell upon the topic of death, but it does come up now and then.  I don't like thinking about it much, but the idea does cross my thoughts on occasion.

        Our own death and the losing of loved ones is one of those great what-if contemplations that hovers over all of us.  We probably should think more seriously about the subject if we haven't done so already.  Making decisions such as those related to death should not be undertaken in times of grief.

         Kool and the Gang's beautiful love song "Cherish" has crept into my awareness over the years and tends to be increasingly meaningful as the years pass.  As I grow older and see people I know losing their partners, the sadness of the situation becomes closer to home.   When my father died at age 67 in 1990, the loss to me was a strange one unlike anything I had before experienced.   Somehow I didn't fully absorb the impact it must have been on my mother to lose her partner of forty years.

         The realization of the loss of a partner had more impact on my thinking nearly twenty-five years after my father's passing.  My sister lost her husband who was 67--the same age as my father when he died--and then about a year later my step-father died after having been a wonderful partner to my mother for about sixteen years.   The fact that I was nearing the age of 67 and that death sometimes arrives unexpectedly at ones door created that deeper awareness that my days were counting down and each day has great value.

          Now I cherish my wife, my family, and my life more than ever before.   Each hearing of the song "Cherish" is that reminder to me to "cherish the love, cherish the life".    My days should be respected and treated as an investment in my happiness as well as the memories that come with the accumulation of a life history.  Our futures are mostly uncertain while our past should not be a collection of regrets and unfulfilled dreams.  What we know is the present and we should make the most of each day.   We should, but I know we don't always.  We can try though.

   
The song "Cherish" with lyrics:  


      Robin has been doing the Soundtrack of my Life posts on her blog Your Daily Dose.   I had done a few of my own "life soundtracks" on my Tossing It Out blog as well as the song series (starting at this post) I did for my 2014 Blogging from A to Z April Challenge on Wrote By Rote.  Be sure to visit and follow Your Daily Dose for more Life Soundtrack info.  

      Do you attach specific songs to certain times and aspects of your life?   How has your life been impacted by the loss of someone important in your life?   Are there any suggestions that you can offer as to the ways we can cherish our loves and lives in better ways?


Saturday, May 31, 2014

Flannery O'Connor's Everything That Rises Must Converge

         
 
Everything That Rises Must Converge
Everything That Rises Must Converge (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
       Aside from the Little Golden Books that were a part of my life from my earliest memories, the first book that I could call my very own was a book about insects that my parents gave me at Easter when I was five.  I have no idea why they gave me that book, but this was the beginning of my passion for collecting books.

        For many years my home library primarily consisted of Hardy Boys mysteries and the Tom Swift science fiction series.  In adolescence I joined the Doubleday Book Club and began acquiring a broad selection of novels, short story collections, and non-fiction.  An eclectic reading interest flourished in me as I avidly consumed book after book.

        In my college years at the University of Tennessee I majored in English.  A new world of Southern Literature was introduced to me.  I began reading William Faulkner, James Dickey, Eudora Welty, Cormac McCarthy and a host of others.  It was unlike most of what I had read in the past.

        The author I'm here to proselytize about is Flannery O'Connor.  Her body of work is relatively small in comparison to many authors, but her stature and influence has been pervasive.  She only published two novels and three short story collections.  The short story is where she excels.  Her stories are strange, mystical, and sometimes rather frightful.

         The collection I would most recommend to readers is Everything That Rises Must Converge.   This book is filled with some of the strangest characters you will ever meet in some of the most outlandish stories you may ever read.   Keep in mind that this is literature from the 1950's with characters who reflect some of the racist attitudes of that time.  O'Connor's intent was not to offend, but to accurately portray what the people she writes about were like.

         Everything That Rises Must Converge is at times creepy, scary, and oftentimes funny.   O'Connor writes in a simple straight-forward style that makes her work highly readable.   Yet the profound nature of her themes will make you think and give you stories that may stick in your craw and haunt you long after you've read them.

        If you're interested in unique American literature with depth that is fluid and readable, I highly recommend starting with Everything That Rises Must Converge.  No matter where you start in Flannery's work, you will be rewarded with a memorable reading experience.  She is one of the greatest American female authors and a giant of Southern Literature.

         One of my favorites for sure!

***********
          This post originally was a guest post that I did over at the Unconventional Librarian blog.

            Currently at Tossing It Out I am doing a data gathering and informational series concerning the topic of preferences and why we like what we like.   If you haven't read my post on literature yet I hope you will visit the post The Greatest Short Story Ever Written? and answer the questions to help me with my research.   Upcoming on Tossing It Out will be a Battle of the Bands post on music on Sunday June 1st and a special #IWSG post about movies.
         

       
Enhanced by Zemanta

Friday, March 21, 2014

#atozchallenge Theme Reveal

        This is a special posting a day early from the normal Saturday schedule in order to be a part of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge Theme Reveal.    For more about the A to Z Theme Reveal Blogfest see the links at the bottom of this post.  



          My last several posts on this blog have been about music.  This has been in conjunction with the Battle of the Bands posts that I do on the 1st and 15th on my blog Tossing It Out.  The Battle of the Bands posts have been a bit of an audience dwindler in some ways, but since I enjoy these posts so much I've been adamant in my continuation to participate in this particular blogging event.  And there is a small audience of those who have shown an interest in these posts.  My plans are to continue the Battle of the Bands on a monthly basis.  My music posts on Wrote By Rote have been my attempt to do some cross promotion for the Battle of the Bands posts.

          For those who might be unfamiliar with the Battle of the Bands blog event to which I refer--and I sure that includes the majority of those reading this--the twice monthly blog posting is a contest between two versions of the same song.  In each post I pit two or more different versions of one song against each other, then readers vote in the comments as to which version is their personal favorite and why.  The following week I reveal which song version won the vote and which is my own favorite.  On the appointed days I am joined by four or more other bloggers who post their own battles at their sites.  It's fun if you enjoy music and comparing cover versions of songs to each other.  If that's something that sounds like something you'd enjoy I hope you will join me on Tossing It Out each month on the 1st and 15th.

         Since Wrote By Rote is a blog devoted to memoir, my recent music posts have been about the songs that I've chosen as my Battle of the Bands selections and some of memories these songs have evoked.   For most people, music has a power to take us back to the times we associate with that music.  Music taps us into past memories of people, places, and events.   In each of  my April posts I will present a song which my visitors can listen to if they wish and I will accompany each song pick with a short vignette that expresses the thoughts, feelings, or memories that particular song draws from within me.  

        Some of the songs you may know while others might be new discoveries for you.  Most of them will be songs that I consider to be beautiful, wistful, and even sad.  Some will be light and even somewhat funny.  They will all be songs that are meaningful to my personal history.  They might even become favorites of yours if they aren't already.

         Please join me here at Wrote By Rote in April for a musical journey as I explore Musical Memories from A to Z.  

          Does music play an important role in your life?   Do you often feel stirred when you hear songs from certain parts of your past?    Have you ever used a song or piece of music as a writing prompt?

        To see what other A to Z bloggers are doing during the April Challenge visit the Blogging from A to Z Theme Reveal Blogfest for the list.


Enhanced by Zemanta

Saturday, October 15, 2011

An Introduction

            This blog concerns the topic of memoir writing.   Wrote By Rote is another in a series of niche blogs that I have set up to accompany my main blog Tossing It Out.  This blog is not intended to take the place of that blog.  Memoir writing is a topic that interests me as well as being of interest to many of you.  I hope that this blog will add something to that discussion.

             I welcome and encourage anyone who wants to be a guest on this blog to contact me and let me know what you would like to write about and I will schedule a spot for you.  For now this blog will post only on Saturdays.  I will be discussing my views on how to write good memoir as well as telling some of my own stories.

           My next post will go into more detail about the intent of this blog and some of my own background.   For now I just want to open this blog up and get it on line to let people know it's here.  I welcome any suggestions you may have.  Thanks for reading, commenting, and becoming a follower.


..