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One of the most devastating things that ever happened to me was when someone whom I cared for deeply essentially said something to the effect of, "I don't care about you anymore."
I won't go into any details, but it was one of those situations that raised so many questions in my mind. I had thought we had been in a long term relationship that was real and meaningful. I had imagined nothing but a future for us. Then that bombshell hit.
What about the words spoken in the past? Had they been meaningless utterances? Promises broken. An emotional investment gone bankrupt. Why? How?
I have never gotten any answers from that parting and now the years have dried the tears. Some memories of our life together remain if I focus on them and dredge them up, but mostly they seem like good years for me spent with a cardboard cut-out of someone of my dreams. She's now like an empty space with a name; she's someone I barely remember in the way I should remember her. Dishonest in her supposed love perhaps, or maybe just derailed by circumstances of her life that she left hidden from me.
She said she no longer cared and then I wondered if she really had cared before that. Surely she must have cared for a while. I cared. And then I cared after she said she didn't. Then eventually I just didn't think about it and found someone else to care about.
One of the greatest elements of the love relationship is caring. You care about someone because you love them and you love them because you care about them. Caring is a two way street in the love relationship. When one side stops caring, the other party is just crying out in a vacuum, words falling upon a vast plain of hurt.
What do you do to show those you love that you care? Have you ever just ended a relationship with questions unanswered and not caring?