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Last Time You Cried...
It's been said that real men don't cry, but I'll admit that I have. I don't cry often and when I do it's a short cry and not some ongoing bawling and sobbing thing. There are times when I have felt very sad, like when my parents died, but I didn't overtly cry. Maybe I cried internally and in my mind, but nothing that one would normally think of as crying. And in those cases there was a preliminary process of illness that prepared me for their deaths. Death is very sad, but it's also nothing we can do anything about once it strikes. Mourning does not always mean crying.
As an adult, crying has usually been the result of frustration concerning someone I loved who was doing something to damage or threaten the relationship. I did cry a few times when I was going through separation and divorce, but those tears did nothing to stop those things from happening. The crying was merely an expression that mostly was part of the process of grief. Divorce is one of the worst experiences that I've ever had. In most cases it's a sad and hurtful experience.
The last time I cried was at the end of a movie. I'm the king of willful suspension of disbelief. Last night I watched a film called The Music Never Stopped and I'll admit some tears welled in my eyes at various points throughout the film. I related to that film so much and connected with it.
In other words, I really get into the movies that I watch and invest a lot of emotions into them. Sad or even sweetly happy, I can cry easily if the story manipulates me in the right way. There might be a tear or watered eyes, but not extremely noticeable crying. My wife never seems to notice because it's a quiet short cry in the darkened living room. It's a cry within me that comes and passes quickly. That's a good cry because it doesn't leave me feeling sad.
Do you cry when you see an emotion laden film? What types of things can trigger the tears for you? Do you feel uncomfortable if someone around you is crying?